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Better Side

beachTry not to resist the changes that come your way. Instead let life live through you. And do not worry that your life is turning upside down. How do you know that the side you are used to is better than the one to come?

– Rumi

“You Can’t Change That”

I had an interesting discussion a few weeks back with friends on the domestic violence case with Ray Rice and the NFL. I have my own strong opinions, but it’s always compelling to hear someone else’s thoughts on any given subject. I won’t go through the whole back and forth discussion, but one thought stood out to me.

As we talked, I voiced my opinion on changing the way society thinks about domestic violence, rape, and crimes against women. Instead of telling our daughters to watch their drinks, to dress a certain way, or beware of certain situations, we need to teach our sons not to commit these crimes in the first place. Violence against women is not a woman’s problem in that we are not the ones hurting ourselves. Until we shift this conversation on the men who are committing these crimes instead of blaming the victims, there will be little change.

The all too often said ridiculous statement was then uttered by a friend, “that’s just the way men are, you can’t change that.”

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